I Bi Dem: Woman, Wife, Mother

It is a year since my very first post on March 26 2019.   When I woke up that morning hosting a blog was not on my ‘to do list’, but I went to bed feeling happy that I had done it. They say, 'Time flies when you are having fun' and how true that has been for me.   I have had a lot of fun just chitchatting. The Yorubas say ‘Eni ta se lore ti o dupe, bi ole ko ni eru lo ni’. It simply means that a person who has received favours and does not show appreciation is a thief. I refuse to be a thief so I will like to say thank you to all of you who keep making it possible for me to post.   A big thank you to my brother, Seun, who challenged me to begin the blog; and wouldn't back down until I did. On that day, he talked me through setting up an account and making my first post. I needed the push. He remains a loyal reader of women's issues. Thank you to Annette who sent the posts to many people and thus created greater awareness aware of it. Thank you for all the en...

Happy mothers’ day to all who celebrated it yesterday in spite of the COVID 19 rampage all over the world. Thank God for those that have reached out to appreciate mothers; it simply disappeared off my calendar. I believe I am not the only one. So many are in the same boat being at home and the days have just merged into one. Thank you also to people that have shared links on how to keep children occupied during the lockdown. Being at home with children can be hectic; it is the time we value the time teachers spend with them, but it is also a blessing.   It is a time we can get to have those conversations and have meaningful family time. I pray God will give us wisdom to use this time productively. It could change so many dynamics in our homes. Below are some links that I received and hope will be useful for you either as a woman. wife or mother. I really look forward to using the audiobook link and have already downloaded a book. The President has just finished addres...

Today is Women’s Day and the focus here in South Africa according to etv news is self-defense. Women are being trained (and rightly so) to defend themselves in a society where all forms of abuse have become commonplace. Hardly does a month pass by without at least one report of violence against women, and those are just the ones that make it to the news. A lot more go unreported. The effort to train women is laudable. As we celebrate women I am worried that some women especially the younger generation see little or no reason to celebrate being a woman, wife and mother. They seem to associate failure, unhappiness, non-achievement etc. with being a wife and mother. They are of the opinion that becoming a wife or mother will deny them the joy of reaching the pinnacle of their chosen careers. There seems to be a trend of empowering and training females without paying enough attention to the males. Both need to be empowered. Our girls seem to think that doing household chores or l...